Sometimes people get bogged down in a cycle of self-hate. Here are some changes to combat this painful situation that will help you love yourself again.
Align Your Actions with Your Core Beliefs
It is important to give yourself solid evidence that you are a person worthy of love and respect. Aside from the fact that everyone deserves compassion, it can be difficult to remember this when it comes to self love.
You will find it useful to start banking evidence that your actions align with the person you want to be. This doesn’t mean earning more money or changing your material surroundings but rather identifying your core values and making sure that your behavior and decisions reflect them.
A simple example would be that if you believe lying is wrong but notice yourself regularly being dishonest, there is friction between the person you want to be and the person you are behaving as. Once these are aligned it is easier to prove to yourself that you deserve to love yourself.
Learn to Stop Comparing People
Judging others and comparing them is a quick way to feel bad about yourself. It is impossible to directly compare two people against each other since there are so many variables and differences that no meaningful conclusions can be drawn.
When you compare yourself to others unfavorably, you damage your self-esteem. By catching yourself whenever you notice comparison creeping into your thoughts, practice mindfulness to get back on track.
Mend Your Relationship with Your Appearance
If you are struggling with how you look, there are a few ways to solve the issue. One involves directly addressing the outward insecurity for a straightforward fix.
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Additionally, you can learn to admire your appearance for its individuality and inherent value. It’s up to you whether or not to alter your appearance, but it is a viable route to increased confidence.
Treat People with Respect, Including Yourself
Some people fall into the trap of judging others harshly and being disrespectful. This makes it difficult to respect yourself.
On the other hand, some have trouble respecting themselves as they feel inferior to other people.
A good way to limit negative self-talk is to reflect on whether or not you would speak to a friend the same way you speak to yourself. When you are respectful and kind to yourself, it is easier to love yourself and others.
Remove Yourself from Unhealthy Situations and Relationships
No matter how much hard work you put into loving yourself, unhealthy surroundings can make it more of a challenge.
If there are people in your life who make you unhappy whenever you spend time with them, find ways to set firmer boundaries. Cutting ties completely isn’t always possible, but this is certainly an effective choice.
Reflect and Be Grateful
Even when it’s difficult, write a list of everything you’re grateful for in your life. It might seem cheesy, but it can quickly improve your mood and your outlook.
When you realize that there are parts of yourself and your life that you appreciate, you reframe your mind to be more positive and loving.
Luciana, a proud Brazilian, blends her passion for jiu-jitsu with a deep-rooted connection to spirituality and well-being. Her dedication to the martial art reflects not just a physical discipline, but a holistic approach to life, seeking balance in mind, body, and spirit. Whether on the mats or in meditation, Luciana embodies the essence of harmony and inner strength.